So, you feel that you’re ready to go all the way.
That’s great!
But, what are the things you should know before you do the deed? Does it hurt? Will you bleed the first time? Does penetration only count as sex?
Well, it’s completely alright if you have a million questions circling your head.
And it’s okay to feel a bit nervous. Or anxious. Or excited. Or all at once.
The first time you have sex should be a memorable moment in your life. And the aim here is to enjoy yourself.
So don’t fret over it. This blog will help you find everything there is to know and expect before you get all busy with your partner.
So let’s get started.
What cunts as sex?
Firstly, everyone’s idea of sex is different.
Not only vaginal penetration but also oral stimulation, fingering, handjobs, stimulation or penetration with a sex toy or anal penetration can still be considered as sex.
Thus, sex can be whatever you’d like it to be. So you do you.
Will sex be painful the first time?
Here’s the spoiler you’ve been waiting for.
Many people with vaginas reckon that having sex for the first time might be painful.
While you can expect mild discomfort, it definitely shouldn’t hurt (Yay!)- be it vaginal, anal or even oral stimulation.
Be sure to use a lubricated condom and extra lube for the in and out to be more comfortable.
And still, if things don’t go smoothly, try consulting with your doctor or gynaecologist.
Will you bleed the first time you have vaginal sex?
Oh, please. The idea that all vaginas bleed the first time they’re penetrated is very far from the truth.
The truth is, some bleed and others don’t. Either way, it’s normal.
Some people don’t bleed because a hymen can stretch during various non-sex activities like gymnastics, riding a bike or horse.
And others might bleed if their hymen hasn’t been stretched before.
So it doesn’t matter whether you will bleed or not. It changes nothing.
You can put a towel underneath just in case. And again, go for a well-lubricated condom and water-based lubricant to make the experience smooth.
What if he's too big for you?
When it comes to penetration, it’s quite understandable if you wonder how something that size could enter inside of you.
But trust us, you’ve no idea of what your Lady V is capable of handling.
Vaginas are super stretchy. And as you know, it’s capable of pushing a baby out. So a penis is no big deal.
And you’ve got nothing to worry about as long as you stay relaxed. If you’re too nervous or anxious, you might tend to clench your pelvic floor muscles which can make penetration hard.
So take it slow, have proper foreplay, and use lots of lube. The wetter, the easier the penetration will be.
What if he's too big for you?
When it comes to penetration, it’s quite understandable if you wonder how something that size could enter inside of you.
But trust us, you’ve no idea of what your Lady V is capable of handling.
Vaginas are super stretchy. And as you know, it’s capable of pushing a baby out. So a penis is no big deal.
And you’ve got nothing to worry about as long as you stay relaxed. If you’re too nervous or anxious, you might tend to clench your pelvic floor muscles which can make penetration hard.
So take it slow, have proper foreplay, and use lots of lube. The wetter, the easier the penetration will be.
Is orgasm necessary for it to count as sex?
Definitely not.
It’s absolutely not necessary for you or your partner to orgasm for it to count as sex.
While orgasm is something you should strive for, it doesn’t always occur the very first time.
Remember that your first time is for you to explore and not setting any such goals will ensure you and your partner just enjoy your time.
How to know if you're having an orgasm?
An orgasm is something hard to go unnoticed. So you will know it for sure.
It comes as a sudden wave of intense pleasure. And the experience generally varies from person to person.
However, you can expect one thing for sure. It will be an amazing feeling that will leave you satisfied.
Yet, it might not happen the very first time. The best thing you can do is practice masturbating and get good at reaching orgasm by yourself so that you’ll know what really turns you on and what doesn’t.
Is it necessary to use a condom?
Worrying about pregnancies and STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) is definitely no fun.
So the short answer is: YES!
Make sure to talk to your partner about it. And use a condom even if you’re on other forms of birth control like pills or IUDs. This way you can stay protected from STIs.
And this step becomes even more important if you’re not in a monogamous or stable relationship.
So have an open conversation with your partner(s) about your choice in using protection because your safety comes first.
How to properly put on a condom?
Putting on a condom right is crucial to prevent breakage and unwanted pregnancies.
So place the condom on your partner’s penis and pinch the tip of the condom so that there’s a small space at the top. This will ensure there’s no air in the condom and it doesn’t break.
Then, unroll it by sliding it all the way down the penis. And while pulling out, make sure either you or your partner holds the condom in place to prevent spillage.
And if you’re wondering whether you or your partner should carry a condom, it’s better to take your safety into your hands and carry one with you.
Should you shave your pubes before sex?
Pubic hair is completely natural and there’s nothing to be ashamed of it.
Everyone has hair down there and what you should do with it is ultimately YOUR CHOICE.
Shave it, trim it, or leave it just as is. Do with it as you wish.
And most importantly, be comfortable with your body. Your confidence is what makes the experience feel better and not what your pubes look like.
How to practice good hygiene during sex?
It’s essential to maintain good hygiene, especially if you’re planning on having penetrative sex to prevent bacteria from entering.
So be sure to clip your fingernails and wash your hands before and after touching your partner’s genitals.
Take a warm water bath before to help relax your muscles. And clean up afterwards with tissues or wet wipes to ensure you remove all body fluids.
And most importantly, make sure to pee immediately after having sex as it helps flush harmful bacteria and prevent UTIs (Urinary Tract Infections).
Conclusion
Having sex for the first time can feel like a major leap. And it’s perfectly fine if you’re feeling a variety of emotions now.
Sex is all about bonding with your partner, understanding each other better and exploring your desires.
So don’t put too much pressure on yourself. And remember that it’s okay if your first time is awkward.
Understanding your and your partner’s likes and dislikes takes time. And just like any other activity, with practice, you will get better.
So just relax, know everything there is to know and start your sexploration journey!
